How to Actually Perform 

When I hear someone say, “I am a magician”

9 times out of 10, that’s code for

“I can’t speak to people without my magic” …

 

I picture in my head the cringy kid who pulls an endless amount of scarves out of his pants to ask his date to prom.

Written on the scarves is, “Will you go to Prom with me?” with one word on each scarf.

Two things come to her mind:

One: “do I say yes out of pity?”

Two: “Does he know how bad that was?”

DEAL BREAKER.

 

In all seriousness, just don’t be that kid.

Most magicians were that kid at some point (I had to get my bad out of the way too).

The real issue with magicians is the lack of people skills that are developed which leads to social awkwardness, bad performance, and approach anxiety.

Let’s talk about the obvious, one of the reasons a lot of young magicians start studying magic is to use it as an excuse to talk to people and gain confidence.

If you do this, though, magic becomes a crutch.

I have noticed that taking away magic from magicians in a social setting can create an uncomfortable situation…

because they are garbage at connecting with people without their crutch.

There’s a reason young magicians are made fun of in media and it’s because your go-to is performing a trick and not conversation…

So what’s the point of all this jibber jabber?

YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING OUTSIDE OF MAGIC TO LEARN HOW TO INTERACT WITH PEOPLE.

Seriously…

I know most of you reading this are people wishing to get over approach anxiety and maybe some of you also consider yourselves extremely introverted. I will be talking about approach anxiety and the bad advice others give in a later post. Here is the easy solution to people skills and having confidence in performing…

This is going to blow your mind…

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GET A JOB.

(Retail and/or the service industry).

Did your brain blow up? Probably. Go on the café right now and try to find that advice. You won’t.

Waiting tables at a restaurant will do phenomenal wonders for you as a person especially if you want to learn how people really interact with each other.

Magic will not fill the job solution.

Go get experience…

Go learn.

I know why this is a great move because I have had many jobs and not one of them failed to prepare me for how I speak with others and handle situations effectively.

This is how you develop consistent speaking skills and body language reading.

You will interact with many customers and co-workers who speak and act similarly just as spectators when they watch magic.

You will also learn how to make people actually care about what you’re doing, so they don’t tell you to go bother someone else with your 5-phase ambitious crap.

“But Grey, that really hurts my feelings. Why would they hurt my feelings?”

Toughen up or get out of magic. What if some drunken twit heckles you and throws your deck of cards into the street?  You tell them “I am sorry you did not like the product, may I interest you in some sponge ball magic?” NO. You say “That’s cool dude. We don’t need to do this” and walk away.

When you get right down to it, this is something that will only benefit you…

You need to have real world experience and magic by itself is not going to cut it. Many successful professionals in the field like David Blaine understand not just magic but other skills including business, networking, and the menial retail job.

Remember that I used to be that guy, the one who couldn’t speak to people….but I’m not anymore. I took a huge amount of initiative and discovered that I really am great at what I do in magic and everything else. If I can really grow for the better then you can too. No excuses.

 

We believe in you and know you have the capability to buckle down and be a great magician.

 

-Grey

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